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Sugar-Coated Guys
"If you're worried about hurting me, that's really sweet, but waiting for an answer hurts more."
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By Jazmine Livingston
In all of my past relationships with guys, I’ve noticed a pattern. If you ask a guy how he feels, he usually says something like “Ummm...I don’t know. I mean…you know?” What are they saying! Why can’t they just be straightforward and blunt when you ask them a straightforward and blunt question?
For all the guys listening right now, here’s a little peek into what girls are thinking when you shy away from answering our questions.
First of all, if I ask you if you find me attractive, don’t tell me you don’t know, or that you have to get your thoughts straight. It’s a simple yes or no question. If you’re worried about hurting me, that’s really sweet, but waiting for an answer hurts more. And please, don’t try to let me down easily or sugar-coat it. All you’re doing is painfully dragging out the uncomfortable process of rejection.
Second of all, if you want something, or someone, then just say it. Girls aren’t psychic, and some of us aren’t going to immediately get the hint. How am I supposed to know that asking me to lunch is a pick up? But, what does it mean exactly when a guy asks you to lunch? Does he actually want to have some alone-time with you? Or is he just trying to get out of going to lunch with his annoying friend Sam?
And lastly, just throw away that whole game of “I get your number on Monday, and I wait until next Monday to call you.” If you wait that long, I’m going to forget who you are.
Will we ever know what guys really mean? Probably not, but there is hope! To all the ladies out there, here’s a little translation guide from my own extensive personal experience: When a guy says, “I kind of already have plans….” It means, “I don’t like you, and I don’t want to spend time with you.” But if the guy says, “I kind of already have plans Friday, but Saturday I’m free,” then it means that he already has plans Friday, but he’s free Saturday. When a guy says, “I know you too well to like you like that, you know?” It means, “I just don’t like you, it’ll never work, so stop asking. But I do think you’re cool.” And when a guy says, “You’re really cool,” it means, “I can see us having a relationship.”
However, there isn’t always a translation for what guys say, and what they really feel. So it stands that guys will always be wishy-washy. But they’re cute, and we love them anyway.
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